“Well, no one knows how I feel!”
How many times have we as teachers (or parents!) seen a child hurl these words over her shoulder, and stomp off to a corner of the playground to pout?
We stand there thinking, Yes, I believe you’re right. There is not a single other person in the history of the entire world that has gone through the experience you’ve just gone through. You are unique in your pain.
We might get a little chuckle out this child’s attitude, but if we’re honest, we must admit we’ve felt that way too.
Life doesn’t stay a playground for very long, where the only problems we face are playmates pushing ahead of us in line. We grow up, and life can deal us some pretty tough blows. Blows that can break our hearts and crush our dreams.
Blows that can have those same thoughts pulling us down—
No one understands what I’m going through.
No one knows my pain.
I’m all alone.
But is this true? Is there no one that understands the depths of our pain?
Last week I read through Mark 14, the account of Jesus’ betrayal and arrest. As I studied, three things stood out to me that I want to share with you. I hope they will encourage you when you feel that no one truly understands what you are going through.
First, Jesus was betrayed by someone He loved. Judas identified Jesus to the angry mob by kissing Him. Imagine that! What was meant to be a sign of affection was used to betray Jesus to death.
Oh how my heart hurts for the many women and men who have been betrayed by the ones they love! Each of your stories breaks my heart and makes me wish I could snap my fingers and heal your heart and make you feel loved again.
I can’t do that, but I can tell you this—Jesus knows how you feel! He knows what it is like to have your heart broken by one who should be protecting it. He knows how it feels when love turns to hate and trust turns to betrayal. He knows.
Second, Jesus was forsaken. “And they all forsook him, and fled.” (Mark 14:50)
Everyone left. His friends, His followers, His faithful disciples. The ones who should have been standing shoulder to shoulder with Him left Him utterly alone.
If you feel alone today, Jesus knows the depths of that loneliness. He knows how it feels to have the entire world against you with no one standing beside you. He knows how it feels when no one has your back.
Third, Jesus was repeatedly denied by one who loved Him. The disciple Peter honestly loved Jesus. We see this love in action both before and after the crucifixion of Jesus. But in spite of that love, Peter still failed Jesus. He still denied that he knew Jesus when it mattered the most.
We too have people who love us and turn their backs when we really need them to come through for us. In spite of their love, they can let us down in the worst possible moment.
Did you catch a pattern in this list?
Jesus was betrayed—by someone He loved.
Jesus was forsaken—by those He loved.
Jesus was denied—by a disciple He loved.
Many times in life, we are hurt the worst by the people we love the most.
And so it was with Jesus.
My friend, Jesus knows how you feel. He knows every pain of your heart, every tear you’ve cried, every thought of despair that sweeps across your mind.
And not only does He know, He longs to comfort you in your pain.
I love these precious verses from II Corinthians 1:3-5.
“Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;
Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.
For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ.”
Did you catch that last verse? The more we suffer, the more comfort we have in Christ! What a precious promise!
If you are suffering today, my friend, go to Jesus. Pour out your heart to Him and tell Him how you feel. Open His Word and meditate upon His presence, His promises, His character.
You will find the comfort you seek, for the Comforter truly knows how you feel.
You are not alone.
“Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession.
For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.” (Hebrews 4:14-16)